Myths on Why “Meditation is Not Your Thing”… Yet! (Part 1 of 2)

…A breath of fresh air in the heat of your day.

Scientific evidence and research from the past decade have proven the benefits of meditation on individual health and well-being. Just like exercise, healthy eating and yoga, meditation and mindfulness are finally accepted as activities contributing to the health in a safe, easy, inexpensive (cost you zero actually) and holistic way. Only small percentage of people meditate on the regular basis, though. Doing it one time for 10 hours will not turn you into enlightened being, unfortunately. The consistency of practice is the key to the benefits of meditation. So let’s explore what myths you may be telling yourself to justify skipping daily meditation practice.

Myth 1: I have no time.

We are all beyond busy, and it’s not going to stop anytime soon. Luckily, you only need 15 minutes a day or so to meditate. Don’t have 15 minutes? Do 10. Don’t have 10 minutes? Do 5. Don’t have 5 minutes? Do 1. Every minute counts!

Do you eat, sleep and bathe? In the past people were not taking daily showers – now everyone has time for it. Adopt a mindset that meditation is part of the essential needs. It’s the gym for your brain, your tuning and connecting with the most precious thing in your life – Yourself. Make it the first practice you do when you wake up, create a ritual and habit (just like your cup of coffee daily, which is a habit). Maybe you can make it the first thing you do in the office or last thing to do before you leave the office. Create time and put it on your calendar until it becomes a natural extension of your essential needs.

“If you don’t have 10 minutes for yourself, you don’t have a life,” – Tony Robbins.

Myth 2: I can’t meditate.

Some people try meditation and decide that it’s not their “cup of tea,” or they don’t feel they are doing it correctly. The minute you close your eyes a crazy world of your chatter, feelings, and emotions unfolds. It’s busy, chaotic, sometimes scary, especially the first times. It’s like meeting the crazy person or the most boring or complaining person in your life, who just won’t shut up. Many people believe that meditation is about emptying the mind, so there are absolute stillness and quietness. My friends, if you find this absolute emptiness and no thoughts, congratulations – you are DEAD.

It’s like meeting the crazy person or the most boring or complaining person in your life, who just won’t shut up.

The point of meditation is not to clear your mind. It’s about training your mind to focus on the object you tell it to focus. And usually, it’s your breath, mantra or external prop, like beads. Your mind will wander and think for sure. The practice of meditation is to catch yourself wandering and lovingly kindly, without any judgment, return your attention to your breath or selected point of focus. It’s impossible not to think, but it’s possible to direct your thinking to one point consciously. Training your attention and focus is the gym for the brain. As your “muscles” get stronger, you will find it easier to concentrate, focus, and pay attention throughout the day. And sometimes you can have a nice healthy conversation with the crazy person inside 🙂

Myth 3: Meditation is selfish.

This view is common in the service area when people live to take care of others or for super devoted to their career. They view any self-care activities as self-indulgent and as time away from doing something useful for others and the organization. This mindset only leads to burnout. When you are busy working for the good of others, devoting your life to a company, taking care of relative or loved one, and forgetting yourself, you will get sick and miserable. That is just the basics of self-care. You can’t help others unless you are well yourself. Put the oxygen mask on yourself first and then help others.

This mindset only leads to burnout.

Meditation helps you to be at your peak state. It evokes self-compassion that is proven to be a driving force for lasting good deeds and happy change. Many times when carrying the heaviest task of our life we tend to do things for others out of pity or duty. Compassion helps to bring meaning to your life and life of others.

Whatever you told yourself about meditation, be adventurous and give it a try. Worse case scenario, you can just go back to the old story “it’s not my thing.” Best case scenario you will adapt a life-changing practice that brings a breath of fresh air to the heat of your day.

Oksana Esberard

Mindfulness at work coach and speaker, Oksana energizes, educates and transforms her audiences from stress to balance and well-being.

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